Mona Lisa, Author at Mona Lisa Ondevilla

IT 042: How To Know If You’re Sabotaging Your Success + What To Do About It

May 15, 2017

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Hi Lightworkers, it’s Mona Lisa and it’s Intuitive Tuesday, the radio show helping intuitives, introverts and empaths manifest the conscious and abundant life and business that they desire.

Today, I’m talking about how to discover if you’re coming across a deep-seated, energetic belief or thought pattern that’s currently sabotaging your current situation.

Without doing and continuing to do the transformational work that I’m about to share with you, I wouldn’t have been able to create a life and business that I love.

And I know the same is true for every successful lightworker girl boss who is out there doing what they love – I can feel it in the way they talk about what they do and what they’ve had to overcome to get where they are. Plus, working closely with some amazing mentors and entrepreneurs myself, I’ve seen what it takes to make your business a reality.

So let’s dive right in…

First, how do you know when you’re coming across an energetic belief?

The best way for me to explain this is to share with you a real life story about my early days of entrepreneurship.

When I was first starting out, I felt like I was doing everything I needed to do at that point to start my business – start a website, regularly post valuable content, reach out to JV partners, listen to business Podcasts and learn from online marketing gurus I admired, like Marie Forleo.

But nothing was happening. And even though I told myself that I was trying, a part of me knew that I wasn’t doing everything I could – that I was sabotaging myself somehow.

Finally, these beliefs surfaced – I’m not a real entrepreneur. I’m a fraud. My business isn’t a real business, and I don’t even know if I can help people. How can I charge people if I don’t even know if I can help them? I’m way out of my league here. What am I thinking…?

So you can see that even though from the outside, I was a busy body, these beliefs were getting in the way of my business’ success.

For example, I would reach out to JV partners, and instead of seeing the value I had to bring to the table, I would put them on a pedestal because they were “real entrepreneurs” and I thought I wasn’t. Not an attractive energy for a JV partner, let me tell you!

Another example, because I believed that I wasn’t a real entrepreneur, I didn’t make any money, even though I inspired people. I was playing small – I was posting quotes and inspirational content online, but I wasn’t putting my actual business systems into place to actually sell anything because I didn’t take myself seriously as a real coach and entrepreneur.

Lastly, I couldn’t stomach investing money in working with a high-level coach (or even talking to a coach!) because I secretly didn’t think that I could make the money back. Talk about planning for failure! I was manifesting my financial struggle in business by not willing to believe I’d have enough income in the future to cover my investments.

These beliefs can sabotage you, even if you think you’re doing everything you can.

So take a moment and feel into this… where do you feel blocked in your business today? Jot that down, and pause this Podcast if you need to.

Next, I want to walk you through the foundation of the 6 step formula I use on myself and with my private clients for moving past beliefs that are no longer serving you.

  1. Ask yourself, what belief needs to be shifted in order for me to move past this?
  2. Listen to your guidance.
  3. Once you get an idea of what the belief is, examine what it sounds like. Where it came from. Is it your mom’s voice? Your dad’s? How long have you had it? How does it manifest in your life today? Your business? Your relationships
  4. Ask yourself, is this belief still true for me today? Is it still serving me? Usually, the answer is No, so bring your awareness to how it’s no longer working for you.
  5. Next, ask yourself what beliefs would serve you better, and choose your new beliefs. What would you rather believe instead of this? What would change if you had those new beliefs?
  6. Reinforce your new beliefs by choosing actions that align with your new belief, and be fierce about this – it’s like reprogramming a faulty computer.

Alright so that’s all for today’s Podcast!

I hope you this episode has helped you uncover the limiting belief that’s getting in the way of your success, and provided you with a process to clear it, so you can get on with living the amazing, lightworker life that’s available and waiting for you. I hope that this has served you and I’ll see you next time for the next episode of Intuitive Tuesday.

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IT 041: 3 years ago, I hated myself. Here’s what changed.

April 25, 2017

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Hey lightworkers, it’s Mona Lisa Ondevilla and it’s Intuitive Tuesday, the radio show helping intuitives, introverts and empaths manifest the conscious and abundant life and business that they desire.

So today, I want to dive in deeper to a story that I recently shared.

You know how Facebook shares with you those “1 year ago today” photo memories?

Well, today I got a “three years ago today” photo, and I couldn’t believe what I was seeing.

I remember taking this photo so clearly, like it was yesterday. I was on the beach in Hawaii on a family vacation… and I hated myself.

Every part of my life was in chaos. I don’t even remember what job I had at the time, because my jobs changed so frequently. I don’t remember where I lived at the time, because I moved so frequently.

I didn’t have any friends. My relationship with my husband was going through hell, and I didn’t know if we were going to make it.

I knew I wanted to have a business – I had already gone through B-School and coach training at this point – but it seemed so far away.

I knew I would get there eventually – maybe – but I didn’t know when and I didn’t know how. When my family asked me what I was doing with my life, I would just say something like… “I’m working on my business on the side, and have a job that’s helping me get out of debt and save enough money until my business is successful.”

I don’t think I convinced them. I don’t think I even convinced myself. My life was in too much chaos to even focus on my business, and I had a lot of inner work to do before that was even an option.

So what changed…?

I’ve been wondering the same thing.

If you would have sat beside me on that beach and told me that in 1.5 years, I’d have a successful coaching business, would live in San Diego with my husband and kitty (I didn’t even have a kitty at the time), that I would be traveling to 4 global destinations in a high-level mastermind coaching program, and that I had real friends all over the world… I would have called you insane.

But that’s what happened. Seriously. Yes, I still pinch myself.

And life has been changing so quickly, that I didn’t even realize that was my life only 3 years ago until Facebook showed me that photo.

So… what changed?

As I sit here and write this, I realize that the number one thing that changed was me. I had to transform into the woman who runs a thriving, full-time coaching practice, who lives in a luxurious resort-style community, who has a beautiful relationship with her husband and friends.

That woman in chaos – who I send so much love and support to looking back – was not going to become a #girlbossonfire.

Not a chance in hell.

After I got to the other side of hell – with the help of Gabby Bernstein, Danielle LaPorte, and Wayne Dyer – then I was ready for my dream business to take off.

Only then was I ready for the how-to’s. The plan. A business coach. Action!

The power of being really READY + investing in a coach = really fast change + quantum leaps in business

Investing in your business before you’ve left the chaos is a waste of money. But when you’re ready… your life and business will change so fast that you won’t even know what happened until Facebook shows you a photo 3 years later.

Here are the exact mindset shifts and practical action steps I took towards completely turning my life around:

  1. First, I stopped being the number one buyer of my own struggle story and my own excuses. We all have our own stories – we’re too young, too old, too introverted, too shy, too inexperienced, not ready yet, waiting for the perfect time/financial situation/life situation. A lot of these were my story, and I justified them like crazy. But then, I stopped because I realized the story was completely stopping my forward movement.
  2. Second, I invested in the coaching and programs that I knew would help shortcut my route to success. I had tried to do everything before then on my own – piecing it together by attending different webinars, trainings, online DIY programs, doing my own website – and it was getting me nowhere. I realized that something had to change (in other words, I needed outside help) to make this happen and fast – I no longer wanted to wait 6 months, a year, or two years.
  3. Third, I started taking a lot of inspired action based on the guidance I received from the coaching and programs I had invested in. This time, I was motivated to see it through and not just drop the ball on myself and my business.
  4. Fourth, I stayed centered and bubbled myself in positive energy and wealth consciousness until I started seeing success. I simply wasn’t available to hearing anything that opposed my desires – no one’s negativity or nay-saying could permeate my energy field.

That’s it. Looking through this list, I realize that I still do these 4 steps to this day. I may not have the same struggle story anymore, but I still face a different set of fears and demons as I grow my business and continue to journey on this path of personal transformation (it never ends).

I still heavily invest in myself and my business – that’s a negotiable, and my business wouldn’t be where it is today without those financial investments. Also, I still take a lot of inspired action daily, and am committed to staying centered and connected to the Universe via wealth consciousness exercises and meditation. These 4 steps changed my life.

So that’s all, I hope that this simple list inspires you to take action for yourself, because it’s really not as complicated as we make it. It can be so simple, if we allow it to.

I hope that this has served you, and I’ll see you next Tuesday, for the next episode of Intuitive Tuesday.

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IT 040: Are You Married To The Struggle and Addicted To The Stress? I was.

April 17, 2017

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Hey lightworkers, it’s Mona Lisa and it’s Intuitive Tuesday, the radio show helping intuitives, introverts and empaths manifest the conscious and abundant life and business that they desire.

I want to talk today about a belief that’s been rearing its ugly head in my own life, and in the lives of so many of the women I speak with on a daily basis (on from word on the street from the FB group and in conversations with you!).

I’ve been hearing variations of the belief that we must struggle and work really hard and slave away in order to be successful.

And this belief can show up in all kinds of different ways and it can be very detrimental when starting a business, or when continuing a business that has already seen a level of success, or when you’re desiring to uplevel.

So in any stage of business, this belief can show up and do some serious damage.

The first thing I wanted to do is bring some awareness of this belief in your own life.

If this is coming up for you… see if this resonates with you in your core and if this feels like something that you’re struggling with.

Some ways that this belief can show up:

  • Believing that being busy and stressed out is glorified (even if you don’t consciously believe that!), it can show up by being busy and not being present, and rushing
  • Being really inspired and motivated to work on your business at first… and then putting on the brakes and self-sabotaging because a part of you believes that because success is right around the corner, it means you’ll have to struggle and the hard, hard work and tears is right there waiting for you
  • Not being able to relax in the things that you’ve already created in your life… it doesn’t necessarily need to be in business if you’re new. Maybe there are other areas of your life where you have worked hard and have a lot of things that you’ve accomplished and feel proud of.

Where in your life can you put down this go-getting energy and instead sit in the appreciation of what you’ve already created?

Take baby steps in celebrating what you’ve already done, what you’re already rocking in other areas of your life before you do this with your business and money mindset.

I want to differentiate here – it’s not that you don’t have to work hard.

In the book Think And Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, he talks about how money doesn’t have to be this hard work/labor/burden type of thing in order for it to come to you.

But there does need to be action you do need to be taking consistent action, you do need to be setting up your structures, and speaking to your tribe and being visible, and sometimes that process isn’t enjoyable… nothing is going to be 100% OMG I love doing X all the time.

I don’t know what the pieces for you are in your business that you don’t necessarily enjoy, but that’s not to say that it needs to be a struggle and a burden, and feeling like “OMG this absolutely sucks and my blood and sweat and tears are going into this journey, and I need to not go to sleep and work 24 hours in a row, and make my hormones imbalanced, and gain a bunch of week and not take care of myself and work myself to the bone so that I can be successful!”

If you’ve already started a business and if you feel like this is self-sabotaging you, or if you’ve already received a level of success and you aren’t able to experience it, and this whole topic is resonating with you, then I first want you to focus on awareness.

In what ways is this belief of struggle = success, showing up in your life? What is it making you do or not do? Is it making you really go for it in your business and slow down, or be in overwhelm, or stay stuck in perfection? How is this specifically showing up in your business and life?

Be willing to examine the belief and really see the repercussions that this belief and then holding on to it for dear life, is having on your on your business.

As they come up, be willing to challenge them, you can journal about it, and if you have a coach, share it with your coach. Really be willing to call it out – don’t let it be in hiding anymore.

Make it a big deal.

Make this belief showing up in your life be a big deal, call it out! Call it out to a coach, call it out to a friend, journal it, and call it to the surface so you can then see how it’s affecting your life.

Then ask yourself, what are the news beliefs that you’d like to have instead of this one of success is struggle. What is the new belief you’d like to have?

Then begin to choose those new beliefs in that moment as your old belief comes out.

It will be a process of showing your old belief the door, allowing it to exit, and then creating space for your new belief to blossom.

Choose beliefs like… “success feels good, success comes easily to me, successful flows to me, I am already successful.” Make affirmations about them and really belief and feel them as you say it.

And ask yourself, where in your life can you allow yourself to experience more happiness for what you’ve already achieved? Where doesn’t it need to be a struggle where you’re still making it a struggle? Where can you experience more deep gratitude and more presence in your life?

It’s in the every day moments where I realize I’m hanging on to my old beliefs, it’s not always on the meditation pillow, or during an epiphany in yoga, sometimes it’s when I’m making tea or making dinner.

In the moments when you catch yourself acting a certain way because of your belief, remember you can choose otherwise.

You have the power to choose in every moment, and that’s what Gabby Bernstein calls a miracle – that instant shift in perspective, instead of choosing fear, choosing love.

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IT 039: How To Turn Your Desires Into Reality + Your Fears Into History in 2 Minutes A Day

April 10, 2017

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Hey lightworkers, it’s Mona Lisa, and it’s Intuitive Tuesday, the radio show helping intuitives introverts and empaths manifest the conscious and abundant life and business that they desire.

You’ve heard me say before that it’s so important to get clear on your desires, and today, I really want to give you a way of looking at this concept in a more concrete, specific way.

This technique that I’m about to share can really help you really get out of being “stuck” in your head and stories, and into inspired action.

A lot of us – especially as introverted, intuitive and self-aware women – know what we fear. We have a good idea about our wounds, and the things that have us terrified. Looking stupid, failing, being judged, being misunderstood, being visible, etc.

Some of you at this point may also have a good idea of your desires in your life, and what you really want to happen. Perhaps it’s more travel, freedom, peace, happier relationships, financial abundance, serving the world.

The thing is, we often don’t get specific enough about how our desires and fears play out in our lives.

And in order to get out of feeling stuck and suffocated by our fears, then we have got to pile on specific, real-life consequences of living out our desires and fears.

So first, I want you to get clear on your general fears. Write a list in your journal of a handful of general fears.

A general fear might sound like… I’m afraid of putting myself out there.

A general desire might sound like… I want freedom from my day job.

Then, for each fear, I want you to get specific about how this is playing out in your life – what does this actually mean? You can write out as many specific fears for each general fear as you want.

A more specific fear might be… I don’t want to publish my blog posts or promote my website on Facebook because I’m afraid of what my friends and family might think if I all of a sudden start announcing myself as a coach.

A more specific desire might sound like… I want the freedom to wake up in the morning and instead of rushing out the door, I want to be able to meditate, journal, enjoy a nice, slower pace, and ease into my day with a grounded, radiant energy.

Now that you have your list, I want you to go through each fear and think… what will happen if I DON’T get over this fear? How will this affect my relationships? My health? My well-being? My life?

And then go over each DESIRE and think… what will happen if I achieve this desire? How will this affect my relationships? My health? My well-being? My life?

The more REAL LIFE and specific you can get, the more powerful this exercise will be because you’re now taking it out of concepts and theories and into REAL LIFE and associating REAL pleasure and REAL pain with desires and fears.

Once you do that, refer to this list regularly– look at your desires often, and reflect on how your fears are showing up in your life, on the daily.

Remind yourself so you don’t FORGET what really matters.

Alright, so that’s all I have for you today! I hope that this has served you and I’ll see you next Tuesday for the next episode of Intuitive Tuesday.

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