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IT 032: How To Create A Sacred NYE Ritual for 2017

December 30, 2016

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How To Create A Sacred NYE Ritual for 2017!

Prep Items:

  • Blankets
  • Sage
  • Books
  • Candles/Fireplace
  • Music
  • Healthy Snacks
  • Tea
  • Crystals
  • Paper/Journal + Pen
  • Angel Cards
  • Things That Feel GOOD

5 Steps To Planning Your Sacred New Year’s Eve Ritual

  1. Set the space & smudge!
  2. Meditate
  3. Tune into your Core Desired Feelings, and answer the following questions:
    1. What does living aligned to each of your CDFs mean for you?
    2. What worked for you this year, and how can you live even more aligned next year?
    3. What didn’t work for you, and what can work better?
  4. Write out 3 desires for the New Year, based on your Core Desired Feelings
  5. For each desire, create a plan including habits, action & scheduling

 

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IT 031: are you being lazy or just hibernating?

December 19, 2016

Tune in on iTunes here, or read the transcript below!

Transcript:

Hello gorgeous lightworkers, it’s Mona Lisa, and it’s Intuitive Tuesday, the radio show helping intuitives introverts and empaths manifest the conscious and abundant life that they desire.

Today’s topic is a message that I’ve been receiving straight from the Universe!  This topic has been coming up in my own life recently, with a majority of my private clients, in random emails, and in conversation with my support team.

The truth is, lately, I’ve been feeling an intense need to lay low energetically… which basically means, I’ve been wanting to do nothing except read, journal, take long, luxurious baths, turn on the fireplace, and do Christmas-y things with my man.

Now, this doesn’t come easy to me – I’m high-energy, go-getting, and love actively working on my lightworker business.

It’s easier for me to run a full scale marketing campaign than to sit on the couch and do nothing.

But this hibernating feeling is literally overriding my go-getting, gung-ho attitude. Every time I have a huge take-on-the-world plan for the day, my body tells me… how about we take a nap instead?

Now before I realized what was going on, I started judging myself pretty harshly – I criticized myself for being lazy and unproductive. I started saying all kinds of mean, untrue things about myself.

How dare I watch Gilmore Girls when there were launches to plan and campaigns to make? Hard work means success. Etc. Etc. That old programing came out, rearing its ugly head.

So I started asking questions. I started outside of myself first, with my acupuncturist, who told me that hibernating is absolutely essential because spring is right around the corner. Seasonally, it’s time to go within, to do the inner work, to do exactly what I’ve been naturally called to do. Otherwise, we won’t feel refreshed come spring.

When I meditated on this, I saw this was the truth for me. My inner guides confirmed what my body already knew. Then I started getting emails and messages all over the place that it’s time to relax and just be… that this is actually part of the process.

Interestingly enough, when I had worked through this myself, almost all of my clients brought up this same concern in their sessions. Funny how that happens!

So I want to pass the message on to you, too… the winter is the time for us to go within. To be cozy. To pass on the chaos, the franticness that the season may induce. To hibernate.

Because ladies… spring is just around the corner.

As introverted and intuitive lightworkers, you know this to be true, which is why you’re probably also feeling this need to withdraw.

Listen to that.

Listen to your body and your intuition.

One of the reasons I wanted to start my own business was so that I could honor my natural cycles and rhythms. I remember writing out… when December comes, I want to take a full TWO WEEKS off, just like when I was in school. That was one of my why’s.

And December is here, and I’m remember-ing … I’m exactly where I need to be, where I asked to be, before I even understood “why”.

If you’re listening to this, chances are you might not yet have the luxury of taking 2 weeks off (but I know you’re working to get there!).

So what does this look like for you?

Maybe it means giving yourself permission to actually enjoy the days off you DO have for the holidays, by getting support… Maybe it means not cleaning and hiring a housekeeper (unless you love cleaning). Or scheduling a couple of spa dates with yourself.

Maybe it means saying no to activities that don’t feel right at the moment.

What’s important is that before making any decisions, listen to your inner guide first. Get quiet. Give yourself permission to slow down.

For example, I LOVE my business mastermind sisters, and we’re all supposed to meet in LA for a girl boss brunch. Usually I’m excited and all about it, but when I listened to my truth, I knew it would be more in my service to stay home and bundle up for the weekend instead of jetset off to LA. And also, I didn’t want to show up and secretly want to be home – that wouldn’t be in service to my girl boss sisters!

So promise me something… no judgments of being lazy this holiday season, ok?

Follow your truth.

If you find yourself doing nothing except drinking cocoa on the couch, that’s OK.

Resting IS productive. Without it, you’ll burn yourself out and won’t have the fresh spring energy you’ll need to rock out in 2017.

Finally, I want to address this line between lazy and hibernating. Honestly, the only one who knows the answer is you.

Every moment, I’m asking myself… does this feel in service? Am I feeling aligned? Am I feeling inspired in this quiet, or lethargic?

For example, I’m still planning out my new year, but I’m doing so in my cozy home, with my cozy socks on, surrounded by candles and Christmas lights.

And when I do watch Netflix, I’m choosing shows that make me happy – Super Soul Sessions and Harry Potter! – and giving it my full attention and presence, rather than being on Facebook and email at the same time. I’m saying no to frantic.

So relax, release and receive… and know that if you’re being called to hibernate, there’s a reason for that.

You’re going to emerge being so, so ready for what’s next.

Alright my loves, that’s all for today’s Podcast. I hope that this has served you, and I’ll see you next Tuesday for the next episode of Intuitive Tuesday.

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IT 030: Ever Try To Make Yourself Invisible? Read This.

December 14, 2016

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Podcast Transcript:

Hey introverted girl bosses!

Welcome to Intuitive Tuesday, the radio show helping intuitives, introverts and empaths manifest the conscious and abundant life that they desire.

Today, I want to share something that has just come to the surface for me. The simple awareness of what’s going on with this for me has already brought a massive shift for me, so if there are those of you out there who are also dealing with this, then I want to bring your awareness to it.

Today’s Podcast is for you if you’ve ever tried to make yourself take up less time, less space, and even less money than what feels good, what feels expansive, and what feels abundant.

Do you allow yourself to take up time and space?

What about money for things that you want to buy… for pure joy?

As an online entrepreneur and success coach, I have a lot more time and space than I’ve ever had.

And I noticed that I have a tendency to squander it away!

And if you’re thinking… I have a corporate job, and I would never squander away my extra time if I had it.

I totally get it – that was me, literally less than two years ago when I was in a corporate job.

I used to say that if I didn’t have a full time job, and I had all day to work on my business, then I would always be so productive with my time.

But here I am… I noticed this pattern of whenever I had too much time, I found myself wasting it. Playing games, checking my email, texting my friends, scrolling through social media. And when I had too much energy, I used it.

One of my favorite energy draining things to do when I have a ton of energy, is doing a deep clean on the house (and I really go for it!). After, my energy is gone. Now I have less of an excuse to do that because I hired a housekeeper, but that was one of my favorite excuses to spend energy.

In regards to my space, I tended to walk quickly, avoided making eye contact with strangers, and I found myself sort of shrinking myself down and becoming ninja stealth mode.

I asked myself… why am I squandering away my time and my space, what’s causing this, is it because I’m an introvert… ?

If that’s what you’re thinking, the answer is no, it’s not because you’re an introvert.

I realized that I did this to get back into my comfort zone of having a set amount of time, energy, space, money… and it was a habit I didn’t realize I had.

And this habit is something that I picked up as a child, as a young teen, when I had to make myself smaller and less noticeable in my family because it meant that I was safe, safe from being ridiculed, safe from being laughed at, safe from getting attention, safe from being thought stupid.

So the less attention I attracted to myself, the less I felt these things. The more I was able to be a stealthy ninja the whole day, the more I could survive the day without feeling embarrassed.

This is a childhood belief that I was walking around with all day without realizing it.

Why does this matter?

It matters because the more present you are, the more successful you can be. The more success, joy and abundance will be attracted to you.

Take up the damn space! This means that you’ll begin to attract to you more joy, abundance and success.

By being small, and rushing, and not having enough time… you’ll attract more of that.

By shrinking yourself down, you’ll always be shrunk down.

By always squandering away money and energy, you’ll have and attract the amount of money and energy that is perhaps less than what you desire.

In Think And Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill touches on the concept of having to fill your current space in order to move on to the next level.

Think about the theory of evolution. Think about your personal evolution. Can you recall a time when you evolved somehow? Did you more than take up your previous space?

When you more than fill your current space, you can’t help but evolve.

So what does this have to do with your business?

This has everything to do with your business!

Because if you don’t claim your space, your time, your right to fully exist where you are right now, where you are today… you won’t move forward in your business or be able to sustain success.

You have to feel everything now, and you have to become a magnet for the expansion that you desire. You have to expand into yourself now and to be grateful and be present for everything that you have now because you will more than fill your space and you won’t be able to help evolving.

So how do you do this?

No more rushing, no more shrinking, no more squandering your time and space, your right to exist.

So if this resonates with you, I’m glad you listened to this. Your awareness to this is a major first step, and I also have a practice that will help you.

I want you to breathe into the feeling of the expansion, of taking up time and space and energy. How does that feel?

Allow yourself to experience pure laughter and joy and happiness, even if it feels foreign or silly at first… if you’ve been so used to making yourself small, making your joy small, play, laugh, dance, sing. Put down the blinds and do your thing, feel amazing because that is what you’re going to attract to you.

Become aware of yourself, become present in every moment.

When you find yourself feeling tight or making yourself feel small, notice it! And come back to breathing, and come back to the mantra “it is safe for me to take up time and space.”

Or if for you it’s money, or energy, you can come back to the mantra “it is safe for me to take up time, money, etc.”

I also have 3 bonus reads if you want to deep dive into this topic:

  • Jonathan Livingston Seagull by Richard Bach
  • The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks
  • The Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller

So that’s all for this episode of Intuitive Tuesday! I hope that this has served you, and I’ll see you next Tuesday for the next episode of Intuitive Tuesday.

xo,

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IT 029: 4 Tips To Raise Your Vibes When You’re In A Business Transition

December 5, 2016

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Listen to today’s Podcast in iTunes by clicking here, or read the transcript below.

A question I get asked all the time is, “How do I feel free, abundant, joyful, happy, purposeful, and high vibe… if I’m still in transition?”

This is such a great question. If you know a little about me, you know that I am all about staying high-vibe, no matter what. The thing is, this can get tricky, especially if your outer experiences (i.e. material world!!) isn’t where you want it to be… yet.

Why is it important to be high vibe, anyway?

One of the most important reasons is… you manifest the energy that you give out.

For example, if you’re starting a business, I’m going to take a big guess that you want to feel:

  1. Free (both financially and with your time)
  2. Abundant
  3. Joyful
  4. Happy
  5. Purposeful
  6. High-vibe, radiant, energized, & confident!

So if you’re giving out tired, overwhelmed, confused energy that lacks clarity and decisiveness, you get that back. It’s a vicious cycle, if you let it be.

But you have a choice…

Honestly, I think it’s not really a choice, but necessary for survival (especially if you’ve managed to find your way to my blog!).

You have to raise your vibes to the level of that which you want.

For example… if you want to be a thriving online coach and entrepreneur, ask yourself… what does the version of me who is a thriving online coach and entrepreneur feel like? What does her energy feel like? And then… channel her.

I have 4 tips for you if you’re in that weird transition place, where the Universe is catching up to you and everything you are manifesting.

  1.  Daily Gratitude. This is a daily practice. Before I got to where I was, I was already thanking Uni for blessing me with a full time coaching business and a wonderful home in San Diego. Even though at that point I had ZERO clients, I KNEW they were coming, I felt it. And they did. I was also grateful for all of the things I already had – my passion to help others, my husband, my health, my kitten.
    1. Gratitude instantly focuses you on attracting the best things in your life, because you are focusing on the best – you are focusing on love.
    2. Find a gratitude practice that works for you, and don’t give up until you’ve found one – I journal every day, and I often start with “Thank You Universe for…” What would work for you?
  2. Find a tribe that elevates you. It’s important that we connect with other women who are likeminded, can lift us up and accept ALL of us at the same time. Even for introverts (and actually, perhaps especially for introverts, who tend to stay in their head a lot of the time!).
    1.  Join my new introverted girl boss FB group if you’re a new entrepreneur, or thinking of becoming one. 
  3. Feel your Core Desired Feelings daily. You can already live and feel your CDFs today. In fact… you actually have to in order to get some movement in your life in the direction you desire.
  4. Make raising your vibes your top priority. Take your vibes and your life seriously. Honor what it is you desire to manifest, as your desires are within you for a reason.
    1. If you find yourself resisting raising your vibes, take a look at what might be stopping you, and get honest with yourself!

*Bonus tip*

Lastly, I have a bonus tip, if you are a new entrepreneur or just starting out! Join my new 7 Day Business Cleanse.

If you did the 7 Day Energy Cleanse with me, you’re going to love the business cleanse, especially if you’re a new girl boss who needs to clear away some negative, old, stuck energy so she can get some MAJOR traction in her business.

Head to 7daybusinesscleanse.com to check it out!

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