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IT 042: How To Know If You’re Sabotaging Your Success + What To Do About It

May 15, 2017

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Hi Lightworkers, it’s Mona Lisa and it’s Intuitive Tuesday, the radio show helping intuitives, introverts and empaths manifest the conscious and abundant life and business that they desire.

Today, I’m talking about how to discover if you’re coming across a deep-seated, energetic belief or thought pattern that’s currently sabotaging your current situation.

Without doing and continuing to do the transformational work that I’m about to share with you, I wouldn’t have been able to create a life and business that I love.

And I know the same is true for every successful lightworker girl boss who is out there doing what they love – I can feel it in the way they talk about what they do and what they’ve had to overcome to get where they are. Plus, working closely with some amazing mentors and entrepreneurs myself, I’ve seen what it takes to make your business a reality.

So let’s dive right in…

First, how do you know when you’re coming across an energetic belief?

The best way for me to explain this is to share with you a real life story about my early days of entrepreneurship.

When I was first starting out, I felt like I was doing everything I needed to do at that point to start my business – start a website, regularly post valuable content, reach out to JV partners, listen to business Podcasts and learn from online marketing gurus I admired, like Marie Forleo.

But nothing was happening. And even though I told myself that I was trying, a part of me knew that I wasn’t doing everything I could – that I was sabotaging myself somehow.

Finally, these beliefs surfaced – I’m not a real entrepreneur. I’m a fraud. My business isn’t a real business, and I don’t even know if I can help people. How can I charge people if I don’t even know if I can help them? I’m way out of my league here. What am I thinking…?

So you can see that even though from the outside, I was a busy body, these beliefs were getting in the way of my business’ success.

For example, I would reach out to JV partners, and instead of seeing the value I had to bring to the table, I would put them on a pedestal because they were “real entrepreneurs” and I thought I wasn’t. Not an attractive energy for a JV partner, let me tell you!

Another example, because I believed that I wasn’t a real entrepreneur, I didn’t make any money, even though I inspired people. I was playing small – I was posting quotes and inspirational content online, but I wasn’t putting my actual business systems into place to actually sell anything because I didn’t take myself seriously as a real coach and entrepreneur.

Lastly, I couldn’t stomach investing money in working with a high-level coach (or even talking to a coach!) because I secretly didn’t think that I could make the money back. Talk about planning for failure! I was manifesting my financial struggle in business by not willing to believe I’d have enough income in the future to cover my investments.

These beliefs can sabotage you, even if you think you’re doing everything you can.

So take a moment and feel into this… where do you feel blocked in your business today? Jot that down, and pause this Podcast if you need to.

Next, I want to walk you through the foundation of the 6 step formula I use on myself and with my private clients for moving past beliefs that are no longer serving you.

  1. Ask yourself, what belief needs to be shifted in order for me to move past this?
  2. Listen to your guidance.
  3. Once you get an idea of what the belief is, examine what it sounds like. Where it came from. Is it your mom’s voice? Your dad’s? How long have you had it? How does it manifest in your life today? Your business? Your relationships
  4. Ask yourself, is this belief still true for me today? Is it still serving me? Usually, the answer is No, so bring your awareness to how it’s no longer working for you.
  5. Next, ask yourself what beliefs would serve you better, and choose your new beliefs. What would you rather believe instead of this? What would change if you had those new beliefs?
  6. Reinforce your new beliefs by choosing actions that align with your new belief, and be fierce about this – it’s like reprogramming a faulty computer.

Alright so that’s all for today’s Podcast!

I hope you this episode has helped you uncover the limiting belief that’s getting in the way of your success, and provided you with a process to clear it, so you can get on with living the amazing, lightworker life that’s available and waiting for you. I hope that this has served you and I’ll see you next time for the next episode of Intuitive Tuesday.

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IT 040: Are You Married To The Struggle and Addicted To The Stress? I was.

April 17, 2017

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Hey lightworkers, it’s Mona Lisa and it’s Intuitive Tuesday, the radio show helping intuitives, introverts and empaths manifest the conscious and abundant life and business that they desire.

I want to talk today about a belief that’s been rearing its ugly head in my own life, and in the lives of so many of the women I speak with on a daily basis (on from word on the street from the FB group and in conversations with you!).

I’ve been hearing variations of the belief that we must struggle and work really hard and slave away in order to be successful.

And this belief can show up in all kinds of different ways and it can be very detrimental when starting a business, or when continuing a business that has already seen a level of success, or when you’re desiring to uplevel.

So in any stage of business, this belief can show up and do some serious damage.

The first thing I wanted to do is bring some awareness of this belief in your own life.

If this is coming up for you… see if this resonates with you in your core and if this feels like something that you’re struggling with.

Some ways that this belief can show up:

  • Believing that being busy and stressed out is glorified (even if you don’t consciously believe that!), it can show up by being busy and not being present, and rushing
  • Being really inspired and motivated to work on your business at first… and then putting on the brakes and self-sabotaging because a part of you believes that because success is right around the corner, it means you’ll have to struggle and the hard, hard work and tears is right there waiting for you
  • Not being able to relax in the things that you’ve already created in your life… it doesn’t necessarily need to be in business if you’re new. Maybe there are other areas of your life where you have worked hard and have a lot of things that you’ve accomplished and feel proud of.

Where in your life can you put down this go-getting energy and instead sit in the appreciation of what you’ve already created?

Take baby steps in celebrating what you’ve already done, what you’re already rocking in other areas of your life before you do this with your business and money mindset.

I want to differentiate here – it’s not that you don’t have to work hard.

In the book Think And Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, he talks about how money doesn’t have to be this hard work/labor/burden type of thing in order for it to come to you.

But there does need to be action you do need to be taking consistent action, you do need to be setting up your structures, and speaking to your tribe and being visible, and sometimes that process isn’t enjoyable… nothing is going to be 100% OMG I love doing X all the time.

I don’t know what the pieces for you are in your business that you don’t necessarily enjoy, but that’s not to say that it needs to be a struggle and a burden, and feeling like “OMG this absolutely sucks and my blood and sweat and tears are going into this journey, and I need to not go to sleep and work 24 hours in a row, and make my hormones imbalanced, and gain a bunch of week and not take care of myself and work myself to the bone so that I can be successful!”

If you’ve already started a business and if you feel like this is self-sabotaging you, or if you’ve already received a level of success and you aren’t able to experience it, and this whole topic is resonating with you, then I first want you to focus on awareness.

In what ways is this belief of struggle = success, showing up in your life? What is it making you do or not do? Is it making you really go for it in your business and slow down, or be in overwhelm, or stay stuck in perfection? How is this specifically showing up in your business and life?

Be willing to examine the belief and really see the repercussions that this belief and then holding on to it for dear life, is having on your on your business.

As they come up, be willing to challenge them, you can journal about it, and if you have a coach, share it with your coach. Really be willing to call it out – don’t let it be in hiding anymore.

Make it a big deal.

Make this belief showing up in your life be a big deal, call it out! Call it out to a coach, call it out to a friend, journal it, and call it to the surface so you can then see how it’s affecting your life.

Then ask yourself, what are the news beliefs that you’d like to have instead of this one of success is struggle. What is the new belief you’d like to have?

Then begin to choose those new beliefs in that moment as your old belief comes out.

It will be a process of showing your old belief the door, allowing it to exit, and then creating space for your new belief to blossom.

Choose beliefs like… “success feels good, success comes easily to me, successful flows to me, I am already successful.” Make affirmations about them and really belief and feel them as you say it.

And ask yourself, where in your life can you allow yourself to experience more happiness for what you’ve already achieved? Where doesn’t it need to be a struggle where you’re still making it a struggle? Where can you experience more deep gratitude and more presence in your life?

It’s in the every day moments where I realize I’m hanging on to my old beliefs, it’s not always on the meditation pillow, or during an epiphany in yoga, sometimes it’s when I’m making tea or making dinner.

In the moments when you catch yourself acting a certain way because of your belief, remember you can choose otherwise.

You have the power to choose in every moment, and that’s what Gabby Bernstein calls a miracle – that instant shift in perspective, instead of choosing fear, choosing love.

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IT 038: I Was SUPER Embarrassed To Admit This…

April 3, 2017

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Hey lightworkers – it’s Mona Lisa, and it’s Intuitive Tuesday, the radio show helping intuitives, introverts and empaths, manifest the conscious and abundant life and business that they desire.

OK… today I have a few confessions to make.

I don’t really like hiking.

And I absolutely don’t like camping.

I’ve always wanted to really like hiking, but I just… I don’t. At least anything beyond the gentle strolls to the nice, easy ocean overlooks.

What I really love is the ocean.

And I don’t really like the idea of hot yoga, so I’ve never been… and in fact, I’m more of a gentle yogi all around. I’d rather get my workout on in barre, dance or pilates classes, or weight training.

What the heck does this have to do with you?!

I wanna help you give yourself permission to like what you like, and don’t like what you don’t like, and to create the business and life that really feels like YOU.

Because those are the things that will inform you on creating a brand you love that’s representative and true to you.

And that YOU and YOUR vibe will attract your tribe.

In the beginning, I was so caught up in focusing on what I thought I should like, but secretly didn’t … hiking, cooking, camping, quinoa, hanging out at bars …

Now, I focus on what I love – beaches, traveling, sunshine, pilates, the ocean, luxury, elevated every day essentials, reading, iced everythings, candles, personal development, crystals, happy people, succulents, plenty of “me time”, plenty of time with friends who uplift and inspire me, bubbly pink baths…

And I’m able to visually see my brand come before me based on these things. If I were to put in a camping picture somewhere into my branding, it wouldn’t feel me.

And online, it’s all about creating a brand that’s you. There’s really no faking it!

How you do business – who you work with – how you show up – is really up to YOU, and the more you can own that, the more joyfully successful you can be.

Even the small things – like how you want to spend your mornings when you wake up – can be inspiration for you and a way YOU do life and business.

When you get really clear on the way you want to do things, and when that lights you up and inspires you, then you’ll be able to move forward with more clarity and energy.

MUCH different than doing things that you think you should be doing!

Like everything in business, this process evolves as you learn more about yourself and move forward, but it’s really important that you start somewhere strong – where you feel confident in where you are today.

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Confidence in your message and who you are will lead to confidence in other areas of your business – marketing, writing copy, creating programs.

Don’t get caught up in perfectionism here and wishing you were something or someone different here – be real and transparent about who you are and where you are today – and play up your strengths, what you’ve been through, and your story.

I’m confident there’s so much hidden treasure inside of each of you, and it’s waiting to be called forward and shared with the world!

That is our calling as lightworkers who are called to serve others – we’re here to transform our own stories, and to help our tribe awaken rise out of their own darkness by sharing our own journeys bravely and with authentic heart and compassion.

I hope that this has served you, and I’ll see you next Tuesday, for the next episode of Intuitive Tuesday.

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IT 033: What Type Of Online Content Should You Create As A New Coach And Purpose-Filled Entrepreneur?

January 2, 2017

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Hello Gorgeous Lightworkers, it’s Mona Lisa and it’s Intuitive Tuesday, the radio show helping intuitives, introverts and empaths manifest the conscious and abundant life that they desire.

Happy New Year and WELCOME TO 2017 (to those of you listening to this Podcast live and in real time).

I’ve heard from many of you that you’ve had transformative, eye-opening experiences in 2016, and that you’re inspired to get serious and get real about making 2017 the year that you finally launch your coaching business as an introverted woman and lightworker, and make some real money doing what you love to do – help others see their own light.

To make this switch, many of you have decided to stay goodbye to your old stories – like being afraid of being visible and out there as an introverted lady, or of looking stupid, failing, disappointing yourself, your family, your kids if you have them.

You know the stories. I know them well, too.

So to give you some extra momentum, today I’m going to share with you an important decision you have to make as an early entrepreneur to get your business up and running. It’s something that I’m deeply excited about, because I believe that as intuitives and introverts, we have an edge over everyone else in this category (yes, I’m totally biased, what can I say).

You may have heard before that content is king, and in the online world, nothing could be more true.

As an online coach and entrepreneur, the only way you can make sales and get clients is by putting out consistent content that your ideal customers will love and resonate with.

So the decision you have to make is simply this: what type of content would you like to put out on a regular basis?

Ask yourself the following questions:

What kind of content would light you up to put out? What do you naturally love to do? What do you think would be fun, even if it’s a little outside of your comfort zone? What type of content do you absolutely want to steer away from (at least for now)?

This decision is so important because if you’re not feelin’ your content medium, your audience can tell.

On the other hand, if you LOVE the way you’re delivering your content, your audience will too.

That’s why when I have clients who love to write, I tell them to write. Or if they love to make videos, I tell them to make videos (and later, to transcribe the videos to post on to their site).

Great news! There is not a whole lot of decision to be made here.

There are 4 types of content to choose from:

  • Writing
    • This can include quotes, captions, newsletters, blogs… anything you put out with the written word!
  • Videos
  • Live Videos
  • Audio/Podcasts

All I’m asking from you today is that you pick ONE main way to provide valuable content to your list.

Use your intuition as well as that smart brain of yours to decide what feels right for you to start. I guarantee you already know the answer!

You CAN and WILL – slowly but surely – expand the ways you like to provide content, but you don’t have to worry about that right now. For example, I started with writing, then went into Podcasting, then videos, then finally, I’m tip-toe-ing into Live Video. But I could NOT have started out with live video at first – if I pressured myself to do that in the very beginning, I wouldn’t have even started!

And let me let you in on a little secret… it always feels sort of awkward and scary to start! I still get nervous when I’m stepping outside of my comfort zone (like when I did my first FB live a few weeks ago!), but I love and savor this feeling, because it means I’m growing.

If you’re an aspiring entrepreneur, chances are, you also love to grow and learn as well, and owning your own business is a sure way to grow both financially and spiritually.

So for now, choose your favorite and give yourself full permission to knock it out of the park.

Some people to say to choose content that your audience will love to digest, and there is some truth to that – for example, I recently learned that a lot of you love video (who knew?!), and now I make videos too! BUT, I only did it when I was ready. The thing is, I personally don’t believe in forcing yourself to do something you don’t enjoy in your business – that’s a surefire way to make sure you don’t get the momentum you desire.

Your audience will resonate the MOST with whatever content style you feel the most natural and comfortable in today.

As a sidenote, this isn’t to say that you will LOVE to create content every single time, because some days, you won’t be feeling inspired, creative, or want to write content, even IF it’s the kind of content you enjoy.

And let me tell you, the ones who PUSH through when that happens – who write the email, even when they’d rather go to the beach or lounge on their couch – are the ones who will SLAY it in their business this year.

Now I do want to say that no matter what you choose, there will be a writing component because you should be sending out a regular written newsletter if you aren’t already.

But if writing isn’t your jam, but audio/video is, you can record yourself speaking what you want to say and then transcribing it for your audience to digest in your newsletter.

Alright, so to recap… your only homework for today is to choose what type of content you’d like to put out! Once you’ve decided, share it with me in the comment section of the blog. Declare it, and make it more real!

On next week’s Podcast, I’m going to help you figure out how to create valuable content that your tribe will love, so make sure to tune in to part 2 of this 2-part episode.

Alright lovelies, that’s all for today, I hope that this has served you and I’ll see you next Tuesday for the next episode of Intuitive Tuesday.

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