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IT 048: From Boring, Broke Coach To Magnetic, Money-Making Coach

July 31, 2017

Note from ML: Being aware of your limiting belief is only the first step. Dragging your sad story around for months and years will only repel success, and attract friends who also like dragging their sad stories around. Learn to leave the boring ass coach parade by tuning into today’s Podcast or reading the transcript below.

IT 048 Podcast Information:

  1. Listen in iTunes Here
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  3. Sign up for my Facebook group for Intuitive Coaches here
  4. Transcript available below

I’m Mona Lisa Ondevilla, international success coach for intuitive coaches.

Today, I’m going to share with you a key difference between boring, broke coaches who help no one but really really want to, and magnetic, money-making coaches who show up and help their tribe by the thousands.

As an introvert myself, I work with intuitive women coaches because I believe they are the most powerful, untapped resource on the planet, who can literally save the world, once they get over their drama and stories about why they can’t show up.

So many smart, intuitive ambitious coaches are aware of their limiting beliefs, which is an important first step. But it’s only the first step.

I’ve seen too many women drag their sad stories around for months and years, and I’ve seen the negative effects it has on their lives – they become ugly, old, tired, and they literally repel success. They energetically attract friends and clients who also drag around their sad stories… Success doesn’t wanna be anywhere near that – can you blame it?

You have to leave the boring ass, depressing parade by taking action that directly challenges your fear if you want to be successful as a coach.

  1. Face your most crippling fear/story – the one that’s been stopping you from your next level of success and happiness. Ask your fear, what does it need from you? Write the answers down.
  2. Decide to leave your story behind and to no longer let it play a part in your identity. Be fierce about this – this means monitoring your thoughts, habits and words so that you are not acting in alignment with this story anymore.
  3. Now here’s the step that makes the difference between the boring, broke coaches who help no one and the magnetic, money-making coaches who help thousands. Take action from the energy of the woman who doesn’t have this story and be vigilant about it like your life and happiness depends on it – because it does. What does she do? How does she show up? What does she believe and think about herself? What do her boundaries look like? If your story is that you’re afraid of publishing your blog post because you’re afraid of what people will think, write and publish 10 posts and promote the hell out of it on your Instagram and Facebook. Watch your confidence rise as you get the confidence and shine that comes from a woman who just conquered her fear. If you see yourself slipping back into the old story, bring yourself back. Like your life depends on it. Be aligned with the energy of a coach who does not have your old story and fear.

I didn’t say it was easy, but then again, it’s not easy to be on the broke, boring and bummed out coach parade for way too long!

So, take inspired action now by writing in the comments below what ONE ACTION you are going to do to conquer your fear and re-align with your success instead.

Can’t wait to see what you come up with!

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IT 047: You’re Already Being Judged (+ How To Overcome This Common Fear)

July 24, 2017

IT 047 Podcast Information:

  1. Listen in iTunes Here
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  3. Sign up for my Facebook group for Intuitive Coaches here
  4. Transcript available below

Today, I’m going to share with you why trying to keep up a perfect image online doesn’t actually keep you from being judged harshly. I know, I’m sorry to burst your bubble, but I’m SO tired of seeing otherwise, smart, brilliant and radiant women keeping themselves prisoners because they want to look perfect and like they have their shit together, when they’re not fooling anyone.

This need to look perfect and to present a perfect image online is poison to our coaching industry.

No one – myself included – wants to be subject to looks of horror, evil laughter, or even worse, pity (who does she think she is?).

But here’s the thing. If you post happy, love-yourself quotes all day every day, and in reality, you hate everything about yourself – people can feel it. And they will judge you. And probably not trust you to be their coach.

You are so much smarter and braver than that, and I know that you can be loved and honored for being the most real version of yourself – not for being a watered down, boring version of ourselves (that’s not fooling anyone).

Here’s the way out.

First, you have got to call out your inner judger – you know, the one who wants you to be little miss perfect, or boring, broke coach. Give her a name. Frantic Franny? Mean Girl Mandy? Then, let your inner judge-y mean girl take the reigns, and let her tell you what she REALLY feels. Write it allll down.

After that’s out of the way,  identify whose voice that is – is it a parent’s voice? A mean girl from 5th grade’s voice? Maybe your own voice from an earlier age?

Next, write down your truth. For every judgement that your inner mean girl said, write down what you actually know about yourself to be true. For example, maybe she told you that you don’t know what you’re talking about and that you’re a major fraud. But deep down, your truth is that you know you have such an incredible gift to share with the world, and that you’re a strong, capable and brave woman who knows what she’s talking about.

Lastly, show up and take action that makes Mean Girl Mandy come out to play! Start your business Instagram, get your website together, show UP. She will come out, and when she does, go back to your List of TRUTHS and stubbornly shut her down. She’ll lose her power over you in time.

As you do this, people will start to FEEL YOU – who you really are. And you’ll start to attract clients who deeply resonate with you and love you for your imperfections.

After you do this exercise, I’d love to hear the name of your inner saboteur. Share it with me below or in my FB Group Intuitive Coaches here

I hope that this has served you and I’ll see you next time on the next episode of Intuitive Tuesday!

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IT 042: How To Know If You’re Sabotaging Your Success + What To Do About It

May 15, 2017

IT 042 Podcast Information:

  1. Listen in iTunes Here
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  3. Transcript available below

 

Hi Lightworkers, it’s Mona Lisa and it’s Intuitive Tuesday, the radio show helping intuitives, introverts and empaths manifest the conscious and abundant life and business that they desire.

Today, I’m talking about how to discover if you’re coming across a deep-seated, energetic belief or thought pattern that’s currently sabotaging your current situation.

Without doing and continuing to do the transformational work that I’m about to share with you, I wouldn’t have been able to create a life and business that I love.

And I know the same is true for every successful lightworker girl boss who is out there doing what they love – I can feel it in the way they talk about what they do and what they’ve had to overcome to get where they are. Plus, working closely with some amazing mentors and entrepreneurs myself, I’ve seen what it takes to make your business a reality.

So let’s dive right in…

First, how do you know when you’re coming across an energetic belief?

The best way for me to explain this is to share with you a real life story about my early days of entrepreneurship.

When I was first starting out, I felt like I was doing everything I needed to do at that point to start my business – start a website, regularly post valuable content, reach out to JV partners, listen to business Podcasts and learn from online marketing gurus I admired, like Marie Forleo.

But nothing was happening. And even though I told myself that I was trying, a part of me knew that I wasn’t doing everything I could – that I was sabotaging myself somehow.

Finally, these beliefs surfaced – I’m not a real entrepreneur. I’m a fraud. My business isn’t a real business, and I don’t even know if I can help people. How can I charge people if I don’t even know if I can help them? I’m way out of my league here. What am I thinking…?

So you can see that even though from the outside, I was a busy body, these beliefs were getting in the way of my business’ success.

For example, I would reach out to JV partners, and instead of seeing the value I had to bring to the table, I would put them on a pedestal because they were “real entrepreneurs” and I thought I wasn’t. Not an attractive energy for a JV partner, let me tell you!

Another example, because I believed that I wasn’t a real entrepreneur, I didn’t make any money, even though I inspired people. I was playing small – I was posting quotes and inspirational content online, but I wasn’t putting my actual business systems into place to actually sell anything because I didn’t take myself seriously as a real coach and entrepreneur.

Lastly, I couldn’t stomach investing money in working with a high-level coach (or even talking to a coach!) because I secretly didn’t think that I could make the money back. Talk about planning for failure! I was manifesting my financial struggle in business by not willing to believe I’d have enough income in the future to cover my investments.

These beliefs can sabotage you, even if you think you’re doing everything you can.

So take a moment and feel into this… where do you feel blocked in your business today? Jot that down, and pause this Podcast if you need to.

Next, I want to walk you through the foundation of the 6 step formula I use on myself and with my private clients for moving past beliefs that are no longer serving you.

  1. Ask yourself, what belief needs to be shifted in order for me to move past this?
  2. Listen to your guidance.
  3. Once you get an idea of what the belief is, examine what it sounds like. Where it came from. Is it your mom’s voice? Your dad’s? How long have you had it? How does it manifest in your life today? Your business? Your relationships
  4. Ask yourself, is this belief still true for me today? Is it still serving me? Usually, the answer is No, so bring your awareness to how it’s no longer working for you.
  5. Next, ask yourself what beliefs would serve you better, and choose your new beliefs. What would you rather believe instead of this? What would change if you had those new beliefs?
  6. Reinforce your new beliefs by choosing actions that align with your new belief, and be fierce about this – it’s like reprogramming a faulty computer.

Alright so that’s all for today’s Podcast!

I hope you this episode has helped you uncover the limiting belief that’s getting in the way of your success, and provided you with a process to clear it, so you can get on with living the amazing, lightworker life that’s available and waiting for you. I hope that this has served you and I’ll see you next time for the next episode of Intuitive Tuesday.

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IT 037: The Girl-Boss-Next-Door Personality Checklist (Do You Have What It Takes?)

February 27, 2017

IT 037 Podcast Information:

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  3. Transcript available below

Hi gorgeous souls, it’s Mona Lisa and it’s Intuitive Tuesday, the radio show helping intuitives, introverts and empaths manifest the conscious and abundant life that they desire.

If you’re here, chances are, it’s important for you to live a fulfilling, soul-centered lifestyle where you get to just be you and show up in service to the Universe.

You dream of having mornings where you can ease into your day, have a nice hot cup of tea, and maybe do some yoga, before you start working with clients or writing your blog.

And you also think, hmmm… it would be nice to also make enough money to get you out of your full-time job, or out of financial fears. And maybe you’re warming up to the idea of having a lot of money, so you can do things you secretly desire to uplevel in your life, like being able to buy the really good tea from Teavana, or the Egyptian cotton thousand thread count sheets you’ve been eyeing for awhile. Elevated every day essentials.

You’ve thought about it – maybe you’ve even started a website, or ordered some business cards.

But, once you get past the initial excitement and dreaming, you might realize something along the lines of…  oh, crap, but I’m not the entrepreneurial type. Maybe I’m not cut out for this. (insert your illogical fears here)

I can’t do this – network all day? Go to business cocktail mixers every night? Be on video? Put myself out there?

Uh-uh. Not going to happen.

And then, you start to get discouraged and lose steam, because you don’t see how you can make it happen as YOU.

And I hear you – you worry that you don’t have what it takes to be an entrepreneur, because you’re introverted, intuitive, or too soft-spoken.

So, to eliminate the confusion, today, I want to share with you the personality traits and characteristics that make up the successful girl-boss-next-door.

Think of it like the ingredients to making a really good soup… you’ve got to have it all there in order for it to work.

I hope that this checklist inspires you to see that you have what it takes to make this your reality. Or, that it shows you where you’re missing the mark, so you can adjust your sails and get back on track. Or, that it shows you that this whole entrepreneur thing just isn’t your thing!

So let’s get into it!

To be successful as a powerhouse girl-boss-next-door, you need the following:

  1. A deep, burning desire to create a service-based business, beyond it just being about the money (the money is there, but it can’t just be about the money or else you’ll jump off the wagon at the first bump in the road). It’s gotta be something you love. If you don’t have this ingredient, you might as well jump off the wagon until you get it – it’d be like trying to make soup without water or stock.
  2. Next, you’re crystal clear on your why, or you’re ready and willing to find this out ASAP! You know your core desired feelings, your vision, and your mission, and it’s really important for you to live the life you envision – priority #1. Again, this ingredient is super important, because if you’re starting a business with “it would be nice to have a business that makes me money on the side, that I don’t really have to work on” it ain’t gonna work. Business needs some serious fire, especially in the start up days!
  3. A fierce willingness to go deep, transform your limiting beliefs, relationship with money, and old stories that need to be thrown out. Having a heart-centered business forces you to grow and develop yourself inside and out, and you’ve got to wanna grow.
  4. You hold yourself up to a high standard, and are committed to your success, no matter what. Failure is simply not an option because see 1 + 2.
  5. You are willing to learn from your temporary failures and setbacks, and are super resilient – you are down to course correct as things don’t go the way you planned (trust me, they won’t always go the way you planned, and that’s business!), and to continue taking action until you have a strategy that works for you!

And that’s it! Those are the 5 ingredients that will make you unstoppable as an entrepreneur.

Tell me in the comments of this Podcast, did you meet the ingredient checklist? Is there an area you need to develop? Or did you decide that being an entrepreneur is just crazy town and not for you? Let me know!

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