Highly Sensitive Archives - Mona Lisa Ondevilla

IT 042: How To Know If You’re Sabotaging Your Success + What To Do About It

May 15, 2017

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Hi Lightworkers, it’s Mona Lisa and it’s Intuitive Tuesday, the radio show helping intuitives, introverts and empaths manifest the conscious and abundant life and business that they desire.

Today, I’m talking about how to discover if you’re coming across a deep-seated, energetic belief or thought pattern that’s currently sabotaging your current situation.

Without doing and continuing to do the transformational work that I’m about to share with you, I wouldn’t have been able to create a life and business that I love.

And I know the same is true for every successful lightworker girl boss who is out there doing what they love – I can feel it in the way they talk about what they do and what they’ve had to overcome to get where they are. Plus, working closely with some amazing mentors and entrepreneurs myself, I’ve seen what it takes to make your business a reality.

So let’s dive right in…

First, how do you know when you’re coming across an energetic belief?

The best way for me to explain this is to share with you a real life story about my early days of entrepreneurship.

When I was first starting out, I felt like I was doing everything I needed to do at that point to start my business – start a website, regularly post valuable content, reach out to JV partners, listen to business Podcasts and learn from online marketing gurus I admired, like Marie Forleo.

But nothing was happening. And even though I told myself that I was trying, a part of me knew that I wasn’t doing everything I could – that I was sabotaging myself somehow.

Finally, these beliefs surfaced – I’m not a real entrepreneur. I’m a fraud. My business isn’t a real business, and I don’t even know if I can help people. How can I charge people if I don’t even know if I can help them? I’m way out of my league here. What am I thinking…?

So you can see that even though from the outside, I was a busy body, these beliefs were getting in the way of my business’ success.

For example, I would reach out to JV partners, and instead of seeing the value I had to bring to the table, I would put them on a pedestal because they were “real entrepreneurs” and I thought I wasn’t. Not an attractive energy for a JV partner, let me tell you!

Another example, because I believed that I wasn’t a real entrepreneur, I didn’t make any money, even though I inspired people. I was playing small – I was posting quotes and inspirational content online, but I wasn’t putting my actual business systems into place to actually sell anything because I didn’t take myself seriously as a real coach and entrepreneur.

Lastly, I couldn’t stomach investing money in working with a high-level coach (or even talking to a coach!) because I secretly didn’t think that I could make the money back. Talk about planning for failure! I was manifesting my financial struggle in business by not willing to believe I’d have enough income in the future to cover my investments.

These beliefs can sabotage you, even if you think you’re doing everything you can.

So take a moment and feel into this… where do you feel blocked in your business today? Jot that down, and pause this Podcast if you need to.

Next, I want to walk you through the foundation of the 6 step formula I use on myself and with my private clients for moving past beliefs that are no longer serving you.

  1. Ask yourself, what belief needs to be shifted in order for me to move past this?
  2. Listen to your guidance.
  3. Once you get an idea of what the belief is, examine what it sounds like. Where it came from. Is it your mom’s voice? Your dad’s? How long have you had it? How does it manifest in your life today? Your business? Your relationships
  4. Ask yourself, is this belief still true for me today? Is it still serving me? Usually, the answer is No, so bring your awareness to how it’s no longer working for you.
  5. Next, ask yourself what beliefs would serve you better, and choose your new beliefs. What would you rather believe instead of this? What would change if you had those new beliefs?
  6. Reinforce your new beliefs by choosing actions that align with your new belief, and be fierce about this – it’s like reprogramming a faulty computer.

Alright so that’s all for today’s Podcast!

I hope you this episode has helped you uncover the limiting belief that’s getting in the way of your success, and provided you with a process to clear it, so you can get on with living the amazing, lightworker life that’s available and waiting for you. I hope that this has served you and I’ll see you next time for the next episode of Intuitive Tuesday.

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IT 037: The Girl-Boss-Next-Door Personality Checklist (Do You Have What It Takes?)

February 27, 2017

IT 037 Podcast Information:

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Hi gorgeous souls, it’s Mona Lisa and it’s Intuitive Tuesday, the radio show helping intuitives, introverts and empaths manifest the conscious and abundant life that they desire.

If you’re here, chances are, it’s important for you to live a fulfilling, soul-centered lifestyle where you get to just be you and show up in service to the Universe.

You dream of having mornings where you can ease into your day, have a nice hot cup of tea, and maybe do some yoga, before you start working with clients or writing your blog.

And you also think, hmmm… it would be nice to also make enough money to get you out of your full-time job, or out of financial fears. And maybe you’re warming up to the idea of having a lot of money, so you can do things you secretly desire to uplevel in your life, like being able to buy the really good tea from Teavana, or the Egyptian cotton thousand thread count sheets you’ve been eyeing for awhile. Elevated every day essentials.

You’ve thought about it – maybe you’ve even started a website, or ordered some business cards.

But, once you get past the initial excitement and dreaming, you might realize something along the lines of…  oh, crap, but I’m not the entrepreneurial type. Maybe I’m not cut out for this. (insert your illogical fears here)

I can’t do this – network all day? Go to business cocktail mixers every night? Be on video? Put myself out there?

Uh-uh. Not going to happen.

And then, you start to get discouraged and lose steam, because you don’t see how you can make it happen as YOU.

And I hear you – you worry that you don’t have what it takes to be an entrepreneur, because you’re introverted, intuitive, or too soft-spoken.

So, to eliminate the confusion, today, I want to share with you the personality traits and characteristics that make up the successful girl-boss-next-door.

Think of it like the ingredients to making a really good soup… you’ve got to have it all there in order for it to work.

I hope that this checklist inspires you to see that you have what it takes to make this your reality. Or, that it shows you where you’re missing the mark, so you can adjust your sails and get back on track. Or, that it shows you that this whole entrepreneur thing just isn’t your thing!

So let’s get into it!

To be successful as a powerhouse girl-boss-next-door, you need the following:

  1. A deep, burning desire to create a service-based business, beyond it just being about the money (the money is there, but it can’t just be about the money or else you’ll jump off the wagon at the first bump in the road). It’s gotta be something you love. If you don’t have this ingredient, you might as well jump off the wagon until you get it – it’d be like trying to make soup without water or stock.
  2. Next, you’re crystal clear on your why, or you’re ready and willing to find this out ASAP! You know your core desired feelings, your vision, and your mission, and it’s really important for you to live the life you envision – priority #1. Again, this ingredient is super important, because if you’re starting a business with “it would be nice to have a business that makes me money on the side, that I don’t really have to work on” it ain’t gonna work. Business needs some serious fire, especially in the start up days!
  3. A fierce willingness to go deep, transform your limiting beliefs, relationship with money, and old stories that need to be thrown out. Having a heart-centered business forces you to grow and develop yourself inside and out, and you’ve got to wanna grow.
  4. You hold yourself up to a high standard, and are committed to your success, no matter what. Failure is simply not an option because see 1 + 2.
  5. You are willing to learn from your temporary failures and setbacks, and are super resilient – you are down to course correct as things don’t go the way you planned (trust me, they won’t always go the way you planned, and that’s business!), and to continue taking action until you have a strategy that works for you!

And that’s it! Those are the 5 ingredients that will make you unstoppable as an entrepreneur.

Tell me in the comments of this Podcast, did you meet the ingredient checklist? Is there an area you need to develop? Or did you decide that being an entrepreneur is just crazy town and not for you? Let me know!

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IT 033: What Type Of Online Content Should You Create As A New Coach And Purpose-Filled Entrepreneur?

January 2, 2017

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Hello Gorgeous Lightworkers, it’s Mona Lisa and it’s Intuitive Tuesday, the radio show helping intuitives, introverts and empaths manifest the conscious and abundant life that they desire.

Happy New Year and WELCOME TO 2017 (to those of you listening to this Podcast live and in real time).

I’ve heard from many of you that you’ve had transformative, eye-opening experiences in 2016, and that you’re inspired to get serious and get real about making 2017 the year that you finally launch your coaching business as an introverted woman and lightworker, and make some real money doing what you love to do – help others see their own light.

To make this switch, many of you have decided to stay goodbye to your old stories – like being afraid of being visible and out there as an introverted lady, or of looking stupid, failing, disappointing yourself, your family, your kids if you have them.

You know the stories. I know them well, too.

So to give you some extra momentum, today I’m going to share with you an important decision you have to make as an early entrepreneur to get your business up and running. It’s something that I’m deeply excited about, because I believe that as intuitives and introverts, we have an edge over everyone else in this category (yes, I’m totally biased, what can I say).

You may have heard before that content is king, and in the online world, nothing could be more true.

As an online coach and entrepreneur, the only way you can make sales and get clients is by putting out consistent content that your ideal customers will love and resonate with.

So the decision you have to make is simply this: what type of content would you like to put out on a regular basis?

Ask yourself the following questions:

What kind of content would light you up to put out? What do you naturally love to do? What do you think would be fun, even if it’s a little outside of your comfort zone? What type of content do you absolutely want to steer away from (at least for now)?

This decision is so important because if you’re not feelin’ your content medium, your audience can tell.

On the other hand, if you LOVE the way you’re delivering your content, your audience will too.

That’s why when I have clients who love to write, I tell them to write. Or if they love to make videos, I tell them to make videos (and later, to transcribe the videos to post on to their site).

Great news! There is not a whole lot of decision to be made here.

There are 4 types of content to choose from:

  • Writing
    • This can include quotes, captions, newsletters, blogs… anything you put out with the written word!
  • Videos
  • Live Videos
  • Audio/Podcasts

All I’m asking from you today is that you pick ONE main way to provide valuable content to your list.

Use your intuition as well as that smart brain of yours to decide what feels right for you to start. I guarantee you already know the answer!

You CAN and WILL – slowly but surely – expand the ways you like to provide content, but you don’t have to worry about that right now. For example, I started with writing, then went into Podcasting, then videos, then finally, I’m tip-toe-ing into Live Video. But I could NOT have started out with live video at first – if I pressured myself to do that in the very beginning, I wouldn’t have even started!

And let me let you in on a little secret… it always feels sort of awkward and scary to start! I still get nervous when I’m stepping outside of my comfort zone (like when I did my first FB live a few weeks ago!), but I love and savor this feeling, because it means I’m growing.

If you’re an aspiring entrepreneur, chances are, you also love to grow and learn as well, and owning your own business is a sure way to grow both financially and spiritually.

So for now, choose your favorite and give yourself full permission to knock it out of the park.

Some people to say to choose content that your audience will love to digest, and there is some truth to that – for example, I recently learned that a lot of you love video (who knew?!), and now I make videos too! BUT, I only did it when I was ready. The thing is, I personally don’t believe in forcing yourself to do something you don’t enjoy in your business – that’s a surefire way to make sure you don’t get the momentum you desire.

Your audience will resonate the MOST with whatever content style you feel the most natural and comfortable in today.

As a sidenote, this isn’t to say that you will LOVE to create content every single time, because some days, you won’t be feeling inspired, creative, or want to write content, even IF it’s the kind of content you enjoy.

And let me tell you, the ones who PUSH through when that happens – who write the email, even when they’d rather go to the beach or lounge on their couch – are the ones who will SLAY it in their business this year.

Now I do want to say that no matter what you choose, there will be a writing component because you should be sending out a regular written newsletter if you aren’t already.

But if writing isn’t your jam, but audio/video is, you can record yourself speaking what you want to say and then transcribing it for your audience to digest in your newsletter.

Alright, so to recap… your only homework for today is to choose what type of content you’d like to put out! Once you’ve decided, share it with me in the comment section of the blog. Declare it, and make it more real!

On next week’s Podcast, I’m going to help you figure out how to create valuable content that your tribe will love, so make sure to tune in to part 2 of this 2-part episode.

Alright lovelies, that’s all for today, I hope that this has served you and I’ll see you next Tuesday for the next episode of Intuitive Tuesday.

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IT 032: How To Create A Sacred NYE Ritual for 2017

December 30, 2016

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How To Create A Sacred NYE Ritual for 2017!

Prep Items:

  • Blankets
  • Sage
  • Books
  • Candles/Fireplace
  • Music
  • Healthy Snacks
  • Tea
  • Crystals
  • Paper/Journal + Pen
  • Angel Cards
  • Things That Feel GOOD

5 Steps To Planning Your Sacred New Year’s Eve Ritual

  1. Set the space & smudge!
  2. Meditate
  3. Tune into your Core Desired Feelings, and answer the following questions:
    1. What does living aligned to each of your CDFs mean for you?
    2. What worked for you this year, and how can you live even more aligned next year?
    3. What didn’t work for you, and what can work better?
  4. Write out 3 desires for the New Year, based on your Core Desired Feelings
  5. For each desire, create a plan including habits, action & scheduling

 

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