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IT 044: need a dose of sparkly confidence?

June 5, 2017

IT 044 Podcast Information:

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  3. Grab my free gift, “Awaken Your Lightworker Superpowers” here
  4. Transcript available below

Hi Lightworkers, it’s Mona Lisa and it’s Intuitive Tuesday, the radio show helping intuitives, introverts and empaths manifest the conscious and abundant life and business that they desire.

Today, I am helping all new coaches and early stage coaches figure out how to tap into their inner sparkly confidence.

A lot of new coaches ask me, how do you speak with confidence? How do you offer your services with confidence? How do you put content out there with confidence?

I get this question and where it’s coming from because when I first started out I did not have much confidence at all

In fact I deferred to a lot of other people and put my intuition about what I should talk about about and what mattered to me on the back burner. I felt like people didn’t really care about what I have to say.

This is where I see a lot of new coaches get mixed up.

When I was first starting, I felt like I had to have a “good marketing message” and I had to talk about things that would “sell” or somehow come across correctly. I felt like I had to show up in a certain way.

I am here to empower you to instead, talk about what lights you up!!

Because when you’re speaking from love and excitement and passion… people will hear that. People will be inspired by that.

Even as an introvert – actually, especially as introverts – we don’t like doing the small talk thing.

We like to dive in and talk about things that really matter to us – whether it’s the current theory that we’re reading about, or the new spiritual, personal development practice that we’re trying, or the new program that we’re in – we love to talk about things that we’re exited about, what we stand behind, that light us up.

The same thing goes for speaking with confidence in your business and creating content and packages and content that you’ll really want to go out there and fill and sell.

If you create something that you feel… “well… this looks right, this looks like a viable business idea/service and someone will buy it…” – if you come at it with that energy, you’re not going to be coming at it with a level of excitement.

And the excitement and the inspiration factor is what’s going to get people in your tribe. People are going to hear your excitement and say – I want what she has.

We all have different journeys – it’s about getting in touch with your own journey.

Maybe you…

>> Went through a health crisis and learned how to listen to your intuition and learned how to nourish your body in a way that you wouldn’t have been able to do if you had listened to everyone else

>> Have a weight loss/fitness journey

>> Have been through a relationship journey

>> Left the herd, and have done something different than what was expected of you

>> Been through a major transformational journey

>> Took a different career path

>> Are a healer who loves all things Yoga/Reiki/Crystal Healings/Tarot Readings

>> Have gone through a life-changing spiritual journey

These can all be pieces of your story, and when you talk about, you get LIT up and super excited to share with other people because you’ve been there and you get it.

It gets kinda weird when you talk about things that you haven’t been through yourself. Like, in the beginning, I would not have been able to talk about starting a business successfully because I hadn’t done that yet – so that wouldn’t feel aligned for me, and I would have to borrow from other people’s voices and I wouldn’t know what that process looks like for me (yet!)

What’s your story? What DO you know? What do you LOVE talking about forever and ever? What’s the topic you can go on and on about?

Once you know that, the rest is much easier to figure out, from that place, you can create programs and packages that light you up, and create content that lights you up.

Your light lights up the world.

It’s ok to be a beginner and to not REALLY know what you want to coach people with yet– let yourself be there if that’s where you are.

There will sometimes be elements of your story where it will be obvious – you had a major health transformation and now want to help other women find that for themselves.

But sometimes it’s less obvious than that – maybe you went through a tough transformational period in your life and you healed yourself of addictions, or depression or anxiety, and you don’t necessarily want to help people with that, but you do want to help people with map out their journey and inspire them along the way.

Once you connect the dots between what you help people with and your story, it gets really clear and exciting.

And honestly, the only way is to move forward through trial and error and discovery, and to trust the process.

I went from career coach for college women, business coach, happiness coach, bridal coach, transformational coach, and now, success coach.

My point is, is that in each of these phases, I totally went for it – I made business cards, websites, freebies… I really went for it. When I thought I wanted to be a bridal coach, I surrounded myself in the industry and even assisted a wedding planner to see if I wanted to be in that industry.

It was only through taking action and eliminating, that I found my own voice and discovered “this is what I want to help people with!” I took a ton of action!

When you finally find that THING that lights you up – AKA your superpower – THEN you can create awesome signature programs and feel confident about selling them because you KNOW you can help your clients get to the other side because you’ve been there yourself (or have helped others get there!).

The confidence pieces comes from knowing yourself and eliminating and seeing what you love – it doesn’t come from guessing and sitting at home, which is what I thought early in the game. You’ve got to get out there!

There’s this really cool lightbulb moment that goes on with my private clients when I help them with this piece. The second they realize who they are meant to serve and how they already have so much knowledge and passion on the topic – they feel like they were BORN to share their message. Before that moment, there’s so much confusion, back-and-forth-ness, doubting and second-guessing!

If you’d love to also feel that way, I invite you to check out my free guide, Awaken Your Lightworker Superpowers to discover what your message is!

Click Here to Grab Your FREE Copy Of My “Awaken Your Lightworker Superpowers” Guide

That’s all I have for you today, I hope that this has served you and I’ll see you next Tuesday on the next episode of Intuitive Tuesday.

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IT 041: 3 years ago, I hated myself. Here’s what changed.

April 25, 2017

IT 041 Podcast Information:

  1. Listen in iTunes Here
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  3. Transcript available below

Hey lightworkers, it’s Mona Lisa Ondevilla and it’s Intuitive Tuesday, the radio show helping intuitives, introverts and empaths manifest the conscious and abundant life and business that they desire.

So today, I want to dive in deeper to a story that I recently shared.

You know how Facebook shares with you those “1 year ago today” photo memories?

Well, today I got a “three years ago today” photo, and I couldn’t believe what I was seeing.

I remember taking this photo so clearly, like it was yesterday. I was on the beach in Hawaii on a family vacation… and I hated myself.

Every part of my life was in chaos. I don’t even remember what job I had at the time, because my jobs changed so frequently. I don’t remember where I lived at the time, because I moved so frequently.

I didn’t have any friends. My relationship with my husband was going through hell, and I didn’t know if we were going to make it.

I knew I wanted to have a business – I had already gone through B-School and coach training at this point – but it seemed so far away.

I knew I would get there eventually – maybe – but I didn’t know when and I didn’t know how. When my family asked me what I was doing with my life, I would just say something like… “I’m working on my business on the side, and have a job that’s helping me get out of debt and save enough money until my business is successful.”

I don’t think I convinced them. I don’t think I even convinced myself. My life was in too much chaos to even focus on my business, and I had a lot of inner work to do before that was even an option.

So what changed…?

I’ve been wondering the same thing.

If you would have sat beside me on that beach and told me that in 1.5 years, I’d have a successful coaching business, would live in San Diego with my husband and kitty (I didn’t even have a kitty at the time), that I would be traveling to 4 global destinations in a high-level mastermind coaching program, and that I had real friends all over the world… I would have called you insane.

But that’s what happened. Seriously. Yes, I still pinch myself.

And life has been changing so quickly, that I didn’t even realize that was my life only 3 years ago until Facebook showed me that photo.

So… what changed?

As I sit here and write this, I realize that the number one thing that changed was me. I had to transform into the woman who runs a thriving, full-time coaching practice, who lives in a luxurious resort-style community, who has a beautiful relationship with her husband and friends.

That woman in chaos – who I send so much love and support to looking back – was not going to become a #girlbossonfire.

Not a chance in hell.

After I got to the other side of hell – with the help of Gabby Bernstein, Danielle LaPorte, and Wayne Dyer – then I was ready for my dream business to take off.

Only then was I ready for the how-to’s. The plan. A business coach. Action!

The power of being really READY + investing in a coach = really fast change + quantum leaps in business

Investing in your business before you’ve left the chaos is a waste of money. But when you’re ready… your life and business will change so fast that you won’t even know what happened until Facebook shows you a photo 3 years later.

Here are the exact mindset shifts and practical action steps I took towards completely turning my life around:

  1. First, I stopped being the number one buyer of my own struggle story and my own excuses. We all have our own stories – we’re too young, too old, too introverted, too shy, too inexperienced, not ready yet, waiting for the perfect time/financial situation/life situation. A lot of these were my story, and I justified them like crazy. But then, I stopped because I realized the story was completely stopping my forward movement.
  2. Second, I invested in the coaching and programs that I knew would help shortcut my route to success. I had tried to do everything before then on my own – piecing it together by attending different webinars, trainings, online DIY programs, doing my own website – and it was getting me nowhere. I realized that something had to change (in other words, I needed outside help) to make this happen and fast – I no longer wanted to wait 6 months, a year, or two years.
  3. Third, I started taking a lot of inspired action based on the guidance I received from the coaching and programs I had invested in. This time, I was motivated to see it through and not just drop the ball on myself and my business.
  4. Fourth, I stayed centered and bubbled myself in positive energy and wealth consciousness until I started seeing success. I simply wasn’t available to hearing anything that opposed my desires – no one’s negativity or nay-saying could permeate my energy field.

That’s it. Looking through this list, I realize that I still do these 4 steps to this day. I may not have the same struggle story anymore, but I still face a different set of fears and demons as I grow my business and continue to journey on this path of personal transformation (it never ends).

I still heavily invest in myself and my business – that’s a negotiable, and my business wouldn’t be where it is today without those financial investments. Also, I still take a lot of inspired action daily, and am committed to staying centered and connected to the Universe via wealth consciousness exercises and meditation. These 4 steps changed my life.

So that’s all, I hope that this simple list inspires you to take action for yourself, because it’s really not as complicated as we make it. It can be so simple, if we allow it to.

I hope that this has served you, and I’ll see you next Tuesday, for the next episode of Intuitive Tuesday.

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