IT 047: You're Already Being Judged (+ How To Overcome This Common Fear)
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Today, I’m going to share with you why trying to keep up a perfect image online doesn’t actually keep you from being judged harshly. I know, I’m sorry to burst your bubble, but I’m SO tired of seeing otherwise, smart, brilliant and radiant women keeping themselves prisoners because they want to look perfect and like they have their shit together, when they’re not fooling anyone.
This need to look perfect and to present a perfect image online is poison to our coaching industry.
No one - myself included - wants to be subject to looks of horror, evil laughter, or even worse, pity (who does she think she is?).
But here’s the thing. If you post happy, love-yourself quotes all day every day, and in reality, you hate everything about yourself - people can feel it. And they will judge you. And probably not trust you to be their coach.
You are so much smarter and braver than that, and I know that you can be loved and honored for being the most real version of yourself - not for being a watered down, boring version of ourselves (that’s not fooling anyone).
Here’s the way out.
First, you have got to call out your inner judger - you know, the one who wants you to be little miss perfect, or boring, broke coach. Give her a name. Frantic Franny? Mean Girl Mandy? Then, let your inner judge-y mean girl take the reigns, and let her tell you what she REALLY feels. Write it allll down.
After that’s out of the way, identify whose voice that is - is it a parent’s voice? A mean girl from 5th grade’s voice? Maybe your own voice from an earlier age?
Next, write down your truth. For every judgement that your inner mean girl said, write down what you actually know about yourself to be true. For example, maybe she told you that you don’t know what you’re talking about and that you’re a major fraud. But deep down, your truth is that you know you have such an incredible gift to share with the world, and that you’re a strong, capable and brave woman who knows what she’s talking about.
Lastly, show up and take action that makes Mean Girl Mandy come out to play! Start your business Instagram, get your website together, show UP. She will come out, and when she does, go back to your List of TRUTHS and stubbornly shut her down. She’ll lose her power over you in time.
As you do this, people will start to FEEL YOU - who you really are. And you’ll start to attract clients who deeply resonate with you and love you for your imperfections.
After you do this exercise, I’d love to hear the name of your inner saboteur. Share it with me below or in my FB Group Intuitive Coaches here.
I hope that this has served you and I’ll see you next time on the next episode of Intuitive Tuesday!